As the honeymoon stage of every romantic relationship wears off, you suddenly notice that your relationship isn’t as perfect as you thought. Flaws and arguments appear more often, and you’re left wondering where the relationship is going. With these top five signs, you’ll be able to decide whether your relationship will or won’t last.
1. Too Busy to Call
If your partner is giving you the excuse that they’re too busy to call, then it’s a major red flag that your relationship may suffer. Know that if you were at the top of your partner’s priority list, then they would always make time to talk to you or go on dates. By telling you that they are too busy to call, it means that there are other important priorities that come before you and the relationship. It also means it’s time to reevaluate your relationship.
2. Alone Time
Partners in a relationship who desire more alone time than couple time can mean doom to the relationship. Quality time with each other is essential for every relationship to grow and strengthen. However, if that quality time slowly diminishes and partners are content with spending time away from each other, then the relationship is coming to an end. It shows that the interest and passion in a relationship has been lost because the emotional connection has not been nurtured for a long period of time.
Another red flag that relates to wanting more alone time is keeping things to yourself. When you keep feelings or thoughts inside, you are less likely to communicate with your partner. Communication is one of the key components that make a relationship strong and healthy; however, if that has weakened, it can only mean your relationship was not meant to be.
3. Not Completely Happy
When people commit to a romantic relationship, their aim is to be completely happy. However, the initial stage of a relationship can be full of misleading highs and fake promises that your relationship will last for a long time. If you don’t feel that your relationship is giving you the happiness you deserve or you’re fantasizing a new life without your current partner, then it’s time to call it quits.
4. Disagreeing on Long-Term Goals
Every relationship has occasional spats about minor issues; however, if there are disagreements on major decisions, such as marriage or having children, then you may realize that your partner is on a different page. If you’re not able to agree on any of the big decisions in life, then the relationship may not hold the true happiness you’re searching for in romance. When disagreeing, it can also lead to another relationship killer: defensiveness. Being defensive during an argument may cause partners to distance themselves because they feel that they do not have the attention from the other. Once there is a wall between the two partners, then the romantic connection weakens.
5. No More Respect
Respect can be shown in numerous ways; however, disrespect can be displayed just as much. Typical signs of disrespect from a partner can range from harsh jokes to speaking ill of them behind their backs. When you feel that the relationship has lost the passionate love it once had, then respect is lost as well. Disrespect can also be shown when a partner tries to completely transform the other into someone they’re not. If you’re trying to transform your partner into someone else, it means that you’re not completely happy. It also means that you’re disrespecting your partner’s personality and not allowing them to be themselves. Respect is another key aspect in a relationship that always needs to be at the top, and if it’s gone, so is the relationship.
When relationship ends, it can be an upsetting time for both partners. However, knowing that a relationship is unhealthy and ending it is the first step to achieving true happiness in romantic relationships.
Emily Silvertone writes for Peachy London - a site dedicated to love, life and sensuality.